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Monique: "I was molested by my older brother"
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In the October issue of 'Essence,' the Baltimore native reveals that she was sexually abused by her brother at the tender age of seven.

"I was molested by my older brother," she tells writer Audrey Edwards during one of her most candid interviews ever. And even when I confronted him and told my parents, he said I was lying, and nothing was really done."

'The Parkers' star said that her brother molested her four times over the course of four years, using certain tactics such as candy to lure her into the bathroom.

Her parents, she said, were in disbelief, but she didn't hold them accountable "because me and my brother were both their children, and I just don't know the kind of position they felt they were in."

However, the way her parents handled the situation left her bewildered.

"My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again," she added. "I'll never forget my mother saying, 'If it's true, it will surface again,' and I remember thinking, 'Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?' I was angry with them for so long, because I felt as if they should have seen what was happening."

Mo'Nique's alleged sexual abuse came full circle when playing her latest role as an abusive parent in Lee Daniels'; forthcoming film, 'Push.' Based on the seminal 1996 novel of the same name by Sapphire, the story is a graphic account of a young black woman growing up in a cycle of incest and abuse.

"My brother was a monster to me," she commented. "When Lee [Daniels] would say 'Action,' I became my brother."

Her brother, she said went on to serve 15 years in prison for sexually abusing another girl and never made amends for the abuse.

"He still acts like he doesn't know what I'm talking about," she vented in the magazine, which hit newsstands today."So screw hurting your feelings. You need to get your feelings hurt, and you need to get some help."

Mo'Nique, who serves as Guest Editor of the magazine, a special issue dedicated to plus-sized women, admitted to being nervous about telling her painful truth but felt it was her duty.

"It makes me nervous. It's like, Oh, God, what will it do to him when people read this? And then another part of me is like, Goddamn it, it's my obligation to let people know, and to tell women to watch their children."

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Brother molested niece
Jerry Chapple 05-08-11 07:52:49

I'm thankful you have this forum. I need to get this out because i need healing
and so does my brother and niece. My brother back several years ago molested my
neice but i and her mother didn't find out until three years ago. I was so hurt
and felt lost because i didn't know what to do. I brother had lived with me for
a year, he had married a good friend of mine and she has two daughters also. My
niece and told one of the girls who told their mother but i didn't know this
until i talked with my brother a week ago. I hadn't been to his house or talked
with him much since 2005. He called me last week stating i allowed other people
to get in the way of us being family, i felt it was time for me to let him know
that i knew what had happen and why i really stayed away not because of this
that happened. My sister in law and my niece have forgiven him, i have also but
he lied and said that my niece tried to break up his marriage. She w...
So Sad
MsPeaches 04-22-10 05:02:42

this is so sad sexual predators they all need to be put and jail and live in a
life of Hell forever. But God's eye's their not closed he's not asleep he's
watching every move they make every secret they keep. Boy, God is going to get
them for hurting the children.Amen!
confused
Gwen 04-19-10 17:44:32

I am confused as to why just over the past 2 years MoNique has stopped talking
to her parents? Did something happen recently and she failed to mention it. I
feel sorry for what happened to her and her brother of all people,but 30 years
ago I don't think her parents knew what to do and it was'nt something talked
about outside the family.We all get mad with our parents at times, but my mother
has Alzshiemers, and I would give anything to be able to talk to her, with her
understanding and knowing who I was. Please get it fixed MoNique don't have
regrets when their gone.
even siblings are perpetrators
len 04-16-10 10:09:16

All over this world there are parents thinking that their child is safe with
leaving ( of course they should) them in the hands of a sibling. I too have now
found out when I left for work my 16 year old would more than molest my 10 month
old. I hurt I do not know if my child will ever remember. We parents who are
not evil trust . We no longer in this world should have blind trust of anyone
even siblings when it comes to our children. I am sad for my son. I have
confronted my son who will not speak about it. So is he a pedophile or was it
something else. My only concern is for other children he may hurt if he is. God
bless all of the victims and unknowing parents who trusted the other sibling.
Tell everyone tell everyone to keep your children safe not matter who or what!
double twisted 02-10-10 22:35:58

I too was molested it is truly a true story when Oprah said a women is not safe
in her home with house full of men I am only quted but you know what I am
talking on the color purple . My mother husband molested me and I told her she
turned on me trash my name and I just dealt with it and act as though it did not
happen . Then one day I got a disturbing confession from my neice that he was
molesting her . I became sick to my stomach . She was taken away and place
back their 1 year later . The system fails us . Some how in he back of my mind
I felt like he would not attack because he told me he was sorry but I know that
he is truly a sick man!!!!
my mothers brother
tina s 12-23-09 15:52:21

it started at the age 5 years old my brothers and had connected closet he would
come in through our closet i would be sleep and i would feel wet down there and
would cover my mouth with his lips so no one could hear my scream. i told my
mother when i was 21 years old watching an oprah show, it kind of ended when i
was 15 years old. do i have too forgive him? i hate him it has ruin my life with
men. i know i need help.only spend 2 month in jail. what a sestem that was for a
step daughter that a mother never believed
Memories
Erica 12-17-09 07:52:51

Mo'Nique, I, too, was abused at the pure age of 7 years old by my uncle. He is
now deceased and never had to face the humility of hurting me because I chose to
keep it in. I didn't want the family shame. I live with all these painful
memories and will never forget what he did to me, but I had to free myself and
forgive him. I am glad you found the strength to forgive your brother. He no
longer has that power over you. Thanks for being such a strong black woman.
You inspire me.
Bestfriend Dad!
Kinnetha 09-29-08 14:06:30

My Bestfriend dad would come from houston to visit her and her grandmother and I
would be there playing dolls with my friend. He was a Quite Predator I told her
and my mother and they just wanted me to sweep everything under the rug! Do not
make it waves thats how the black community was!! In Southeast Texas, He would
send her off to look for something and would tell me to look in the closet while
he tryed to touch me! I thought it was all my fault so I tryed to block all that
out of my mind but when he came around I would not go visit to play Dolls with
her I'm 41 yrs old now and he is on house arrest and I saw him looking out the
window and I started to shake all over again. My Prayer for Any Mother or Friend
if someone tells you anything about a person touching(fundle) them without
permission please do something about it and get the child some help! It will
SCARE YOU!I Know! Mo'Nique Thanks for printing and coming forward wit...
Wil 09-29-08 03:36:15

Great job Mo'Nique! I know some may say that since she has money and fame why
bother, but the truth of the matter is, the pain will never leave nor the
memories. In this day and age, it is good for this to come out, because it
happens so often and is continually ignored. Male or female victims, the
predators should be held responsible.
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